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21 Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

For men, getting married involves a lot of learning.

Besides finding the one you love, there are other essential questions you must ask.

Such as —

What are the duties of husbands according to the bible?

Are there specific bible verses about husband roles to improve your marriage?

The truth is, knowing your duties will prevent needless quarrels in your marriage.

I experienced similar problems in the first few weeks of marriage.

My home was broken because we fought over what we already knew.

And that’s because we weren’t ready to accept the dos and don’ts of marriage.

At some point, we were already asking for a divorce.

But thank God, things got a lot better after we accepted our roles as husband and wife.

So, if you are married or about to get married, you must understand the full responsibilities placed on you by God.

By doing so, you are unlikely to be misled by the devil or have a broken marriage.

I have put together bible verses about husbands’ duties and obligations to motivate you.


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Bible verses about Husband roles and duties

Bible verses about Husband roles

1. Husbands must understand the true meaning of marriage

In the early stages of my marriage, I wasn’t able to understand what marriage entails.

Marriage is an inseparable union between a man and a woman.

God has united both of you together for an everlasting union as one flesh.

This means, even if you choose to end the marriage, as Christians, it is impossible.

You cannot just wake up any day and feel like separating from your wife.

The scriptures are clear that, as a husband, divorce is only possible if your wife cheats on you.

Besides that, there is no option for a divorce. If you do, God will be angry with you.

Genesis 2:24

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Matthew 19:3

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

Matthew 19:4-6

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Romans 7:2

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.


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2. Husbands must love their wives

This is the most vital role of any man in marriage.

The bible is clear on that because it’s the only way marriage could work.

God has placed man as the spiritual leader of the family for a reason.

And as expected, we must be able to lead our family with love and honesty.

Love is not just your emotional feeling for your wife.

It means you will never hurt her in any way possible.

That means always standing by her and providing for all her needs, including taking care of her issues and providing for the family.

If you love your wife, there is no reason to physically abuse her or even cheat on her with other women.

Love entails what is expected from a leader.

Because if you do not love your wife wholeheartedly, it may be difficult for her to be genuinely submissive.

True submission is a complete will to openly respect your opinion and ideas through love.

Here are verses about husband roles.

Ephesians 5:22-24

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything

Ephesians 5:25

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

1 Peter 3:7

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Colossians 3:19

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Ephesians 5:28

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:33

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

3.  A husband must provide for the family

This is yet another vital function of husbands.

You must make sure your family has something to eat every day.

And that includes proving all they need – clothing, school fees, and the rest.

God has placed you as a leader to provide the money required by the family.

That means you will work hard each day to achieve this responsibility.

But there is no reason to panic.

Since I got married, I have never had issues with providing the basic needs of my wife.

And I am grateful to God for his faithfulness.

The scriptures say,

I was young and now I am old,
    yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
    or their children begging bread.  Psalm 37:25

I have seen so many families where the husband fails this essential duty.

When that happens, the children are easily misled by the devil.

They quickly start any kind of job to get food on the table.

For wives, they could be misled into adultery.

For your kids, they could get involved with criminal activities to raise funds.

If you serve God wholeheartedly, in my experience, there is no reason to panic.

God will mysteriously provide for all your daily needs.

Here are Bible verses about husband roles.

1 Timothy 5:8

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever

Galatians 6:10

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.

2 Corinthians 12:14

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Now I am ready to visit you for the third time, and I will not be a burden to you, because what I want is not your possessions but you. After all, children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.


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4. You are the spiritual leader of the family

Bible verses about Husband duties

This is the undisputed truth of the scriptures.

The man is the head of the home, and all decision-making rest on his shoulders.

This in no way means that you should not listen to your wife’s opinion.

You should — in fact, you must.

However, God has given husbands the authority over their wives to lead all the family’s affairs.

Here are scriptures about husbands’ roles in leadership.

1 Corinthians 11:3

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man,[a] and the head of Christ is God

1 Peter 3:5-6

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Genesis 3:16

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”

5.  You must raise your kids the right way

As a husband, God has promised to bless you with children.

They must be catered for and led every step of the way.

Here are scriptures about training your children.

Proverbs 22:6

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Start children off on the way they should go,
    and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Ephesians 6:4

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Fathers,[a] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Deuteronomy 6:7

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

6.  Husbands must not deny their wives pleasures

Yes, this is one of the main issues in a lot of marriages.

Sometimes, the man is uninterested in making love with his wife.

Or the women are disinterested in the whole idea.

Either way, it is a sin to resist your partner except for a genuine reason.

Except you agree on abstaining, it is unscriptural to deny your wife your body.

Here are Bible verses about husband roles.

1 Corinthians 7:5-6

Bible verses about Husbands roles and duties in the Scriptures

Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.


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Benta

Monday 21st of February 2022

I remarried last year, I have paid every bill so he could catch up on his debt of credit cards. I even signed a large loan t I got this parents out of debt, which is coming due soon. He wanted me to sign a loan for his son to get a truck. I refused, there was a major fight. I paid for the honeymoon, new beds, AC, computer....i came home after working and every light is on and tv blaring. He is in bedroom either asleep or watching that tv. The power bill came in and was extremely high. I asked him and his daughter to turn things off when they are not using them. He told me that I could afford to pay it. I have been sleeping in the spare room since. This morning I left him a note telling him that I am willing to pay 200 in the electric bill. And he will need to pay for this and his daughters cell. I came home today and he is very mad at my attitude. He said there are several things we can do if I dont want to be married.

Kgantse

Thursday 7th of April 2022

@Benta, your husband seems to not be interested in taking his role as a husband. A husband is supposed to be a selfless provider and protecter of the family. He may not be harsh to you.

He does not seem to be loving, caring or considerate. He is robbing you of a husband. Pray for him and ask the lord to open his eyes, and soften his heart.

In the meantime stop taking loans for him or his family members. Stop paying his debts or the debts of his family members. Lastly stop providing for his family members, that is not your responsibility. May he become a better, loving & considerate husband.

Aisha

Monday 1st of November 2021

I believe there is discernment in all things and we are to ask the Holy spirit to instruct us. We are to pray, and read the word, worship, and seek God with all of our hearts on the scriptures and the questions we have. I too am confused with the scriptures stating we must not leave our spouse, however, if a spouse is physically and/or verbally abusing their spouse for a very long time, and you have done everything in your power and under God's laws/statutes/ commandments/obedience/etc. and your partner is not willing to seek God and make Him the center, I cannot seem to grasp our father in heaven would want us to suffer. However, there is His timing and there is always room for a miracle. However, we all have free will. God is always willing to step in and rescue, transform, change, etc., but if the person just doesn't want to change, then we really need to seek the Lord deeply and further. He wants us to live out our best potential in life, doing His will, serving people, and bringing others into the Kingdom. If your spouse isn't on board with that or is lukewarm, than how can God be pleased or honored, if one is not honoring the Lord above all and the other wants everything in their power to have Jesus as the center in all things? God gives us clarity please.

christina

Thursday 7th of October 2021

this seems like a bias opinion set. also- you directly contradict scripture when you tell women that marriage means 2 souls become one- this is not what the bible says, the verse you use t support this states plainly that 2 become one FLESH

you tell women: You must provide him with sexual pleasures when he wants it 1 Corinthians 7:2 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 1 Corinthians 7:5

but to men, you put it this way:

6. Husbands must not deny their wives pleasures 1 Corinthians 7:5-7

Feel free to reach out to me to discuss this further.

Kitty

Sunday 6th of February 2022

@christina, the scripture does say we are a puzzle that husband and wife become one flesh...read deeper you are to not hide single thing from each other you are one not two. So then yes nothing at work or anything should be kept you should tell all of your day. It shows your souls attach as puzzle and as couple always when you go heaven that's who you will go with even the divorce...the man or woman you married only if they get go heaven will be one your with....the 1st you marry. Even though many have done wrong re married through wrong reasons or wrong timing and goes deeper.

None this article is opinion it's all from scripture explained well!

The last part left some out that would make both pretty much have agree on sex..but s*x ment only make babies.and that husband can have woman's breast but only if he's general and doesn't want it much. A woman has hardly say over it but if she backs away most likely a husband went over bored.

Mark

Tuesday 28th of September 2021

1 Peter 3:7; Colossians 3:19. I'm no preacher but ANY man that abuses his wife or children needs to be in prison.

Shavita Walker

Sunday 16th of May 2021

If a woman is being abused is she to suffer for Christ? Does God not love her and her children more than that?

Kitty

Sunday 6th of February 2022

@Shavita Walker, depends what type..mostly how bad it is. We are try point our husbands to right direction and not give up too soon,but we also are weak vessel. God gives us rights to divorce after a certain point (I'm actually studding to understanding this part still.) There is a verse about the only time we can remarry before a husband does (must not have kids yet and due to wrong treating...can't remember what verse.) But God gives you a choice if you do stay and suffer and pray you still can have great out come (no idea of what but god is there help you.) But your husband's prayers will also be hindered either way.

Pretty much it's complicated DECITION, the one thing God makes clear ounce done you did it and that You must truelly believe your doing right thing through God divorcing or leaving not divorced.

Techniqly with children a mother wife is not to work unless she has children nearby and caring for them but also is working with her husband or at her house. Ounce kids leave she can work little more but post be near her husband......very difficult in now day works I get it...a husband can accept her working other wise but that's when unfaithfulness comes.

Dont be ashamed and find support after. Government don't take care of divorced woman any more and yes very long time ago they did till they could remarry.

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